Social 🧛 PSA - Social Media - Impact on mental health

[tajhay]

Whilst the aim of this forum is to provide a platform for all warriors fans to cry, whinge, celebrate and share in all the different emotions attached to supporting the Warriors, its worthwhile for everyone to remember to sometimes take a step back and reassess how it can impact mental health.

We are all Warriors fans, but we are all wired differently. What you may read or post may impact you differently to someone else. Prolonged browsing, constantly hitting refresh button, or waiting for someone to agree with you or like your posts etc can have an impact on your mental health. Reading negative replies to your own or sentiments can change your mood.

So with that said, please do not spend more time than you need on here - as with any social media there are pros as well as cons. There is also responsibility in what you post and tone you may infer with the language used. Everyone is different - be mindful of that.

This doesnt just apply on here but social media as a whole. This is simply a PSA. If you need assistance reach out. There are members who will only visit after a win, as negativity impacts them. There are members who have requested to be blocked from posting on the site for their own mental health.

It can be a rabbit hole so please take care of yourself and do your bit for the rest of the Warriors family too and be mindful of the above. If you need assistance, please reach out.

 

[Juno]

This is also why as fans and contributors to this site we need to choose our words carefully, show more respect for others, not just for posters but for players and others of this great club. If you think they don't read what is said about them you're mistaken. Criticize if you must, yes, but be more respectful and generous of spirit. They are not commodities, they are people.
we don't own them no matter how much some people think we do.
We are fans & yes we contribute, but on here we are armchair critics, keyboard warriors, nothing more & that's too easy. We should not say anything in a way we would not say one on one, face to face, or be prepared to get on the field and do ourselves.
Like the original post says, if you are on here constantly and struggle to be critical without degradation of someone, or you are consumed 24/7 on and offline and struggle to take a step back, or ask for help, going offline and speaking to someone is a great help.
Kia kaha, kia manawanui!

 

[Tookey 2.0]

Hey fellas, I just wanted to say I think it's fucking awesome that we've got a thread about this kinda stuff.

I'm well aware of mental health and what it looks like etc due to my employment, however in the last few months I've had to take some time off mahi because of my mental health. I've never experienced that kind of thing before and to be honest, it was really terrifying and at times felt like I was dying. It took this personal experience for me to realise that actually, I didn't know shit about mental health or how to get myself out of the hole that I found myself in.

Things are much, much better now though but yeah, just wanted to say Kia Kaha to anyone going through something tough and am happy for anyone to reach out if they're having a shit time.

He waka eke noa
We're all in this together

 

[Evil_Mush]

Good shout



Heading there at the end of the year with some friends. As above poster suggested, up north in December will be pretty cool.

Back to topic, I myself was in a very dark place to start the year off after my longterm relationship ended. One thing that helped me crawl out of it a little was joining the gym with a friend. Fitness is now a major part of my life and keeps me always pushing forward.

I was in a similar headspace when my only long-term relationship at the time broke up start of 2022, all of a sudden I had no idea what I was doing with myself and was experiencing lots of sudden emotional outbursts (or "inbursts" given it was all inwardly super intense) including one time I was supposed to meet to talk about a potential new role and ended up cancelling half an hour before cos I was a blubbering self-hating mess (which was a common occurence in those first few months).

It's kinda weird I feel like I was more emotional in that period than when members of my immediate family have passed away over the years (perhaps emotions I had shuttered away from those past experiences burst through the dam after I felt like I had failed as a man after the breakup).

Lots of long walks listening to health and fitness podcasts, eating better (even got myself a food scale) and getting back to the gym regularly saw me get to my lowest weight in over 10 years about 6 months later, which was a very big help in getting back to a positive mental space.
I have since got about 15kg heavier again but a lot of that is muscle (at least that's the story I'm telling myself ) and I am definitely feeling healthier than that period 2 years ago.
Also have found myself in a lovely relationship with a lovely French-Canadian (yup still going from the relationship status thread 6 months ago) so that's nice


Moral of the story is basically "this too shall pass", "the only way is through", "there is light at the end of the tunnel" and all those similar kind of phrases are definitely true.
In the moment it feels like the hopelessness is going to be like that forever and your life as you know it is over, then you commit to doing just a little bit of progress in some aspect of your life each day (health, fitness, nutrition, study, career, creativity, social interations etc...), babysteps in a certain direction for a while then all of a sudden things are looking up, you are achieving things and looking back the episodes of extreme sadness/self-defeat seem a distant memory!

Good luck to anyone feeling that way at the moment, you got this