Bang on brother. When depression sets in alcohol tastes so bloody good, especially the next, and then the next. In Sione's case it sounds like his personal tolerance for alcohol was high so he was a sitting duck for the consequences. I agree with you Welly (not often though) that this subject needs to be out there so that it is not taboo.The addictions helped alleviate the depression I was often in.
There is no doubt he behaved like a grade A fuckwit. That he has the courage to man up and admit it indicates to me he is not a fuckwit. This book WILL do some kid some good, believe me. If it only works on one kid it will be worth it, but I think it will work on a lot more. John Kirwan's book did.He sounds like a grade A fuckwit to be honest.
I get it I really do, personally I had a great time on drugs I didn't murder anybody, didn't rape anybody, didn't rob anyone, didn't beat anybody, didn't lose one job, laughed my ass off and went about my day. Again I get it I was and never will be a high performance athlete with a spotlight hanging about me and if the book helps even one young player pull his head in and take the help that is on offer then it's done its job. But for the most wisdom usually comes with experience, hindsight and a few more years under the belt. In you're early 20's you're bulletproof and in the rarefied air these guys live in they're almost indestructible. If they want it there's plenty of support to lean on but until you first admit you have a problem there's fuck all anyone else can do.After reading more of the book I can say I draw a lot of parallels with Sione just I never had the talent nor were my fuck ups public. Before having kids I use to drink till I either ran out of money or passed out. Popped pills, tabs and snorted a shit load of coke and speed. Ive lost jobs, girlfriends and been at odds with family at times. Nothing to be proud of but addiction is such a cruel mistress.
Sione talks about that light bulb moment when he was forced to make a choice between his child or alcohol. Thats where it all clicked for him and my one was finding out I was gonna be a father. Wasnt until I realised that I was going to be responsible for another life that I finally became responsible with mine. My life had purpose. I finally had direction.
I cant explain why I didnt give shit about my life before then but I truly didnt. My life revolved around highs. Whether it was liquor or drugs or high risk antics I didnt care. When my life of blur wasnt doing the trick I often felt like ending it all. The addictions helped alleviate the depression I was often in.
Despite the best intentions of family and friends their advice all fell on deaf ears. I couldnt be helped even though Id had near death experiences, overdoses and been in trouble with the law. Its a miracle Im still here.
I know where Sione is coming from so I wont judge him for his fuck ups. We all mess up. Some big. Some small. Heres hoping some dickhead doesnt talk to some of you's how you are talking about Sione.
I applaud Sione for speaking up. Its a book that should be given to every single player thats signed by the Warriors. The way it delves into addictions, depression, media scrutiny, public spotlight and family pressures is something every player should be taught about.
Its good to see that men are slowly changing the culture that sees talking about such issues as taboo, effeminate and weak. Its good to see that men are finally waking up to the horrendous statistics that sees us killing ourselves over things that could have been quelled over a cup of tea or psychological help. New Zealand has the second highest rate of youth suicide in the OECD with men outnumbering women 4 to 1. Last year every 20 hours a male took his life. The numbers who suffer from depression of some degree are much much larger. The only difference with Sione was his problems were played out in our papers and televisions. Take that out of the equation and he's just as screwed up as I was and likely just as thankful he made it through that period of life...
I have only read the chapter Welly sent us. I haven't had time to read the book yet. The bit I read described the attitude he struck when he went to Canberra. I didn't see it as blaming anybody, just saying what happened. Those kids get a rude welcome over there.The little I've read suggests to me he's still blaming other people.
I am getting through the book to about the start of the 2004 season. It is very interesting to see where it all went wrong. This book is a good read.
Sione Faumuina would probably make top 3. Some of the earlier Warriors were worse but that was during a time when things were kept in house and drowning a keg straight after the game was common place.So who's the worst warrior of all time in terms of behaviour?
I forgot about him, he never made FG though did he?IMO the worse one associated with the Warriors was Shaun Metcalf...
Maybe when you've finished it you could post on here what it was like. A review of sorts. If there's a fair bit about the inner goings on of the club then I'll probably buy it.
I am getting to the end of his career in England so I still have some way to go.Maybe when you've finished it you could post on here what it was like. A review of sorts. If there's a fair bit about the inner goings on of the club then I'll probably buy it.
The single biggest problem with the team. The truth is no one plays that role. They are all submissive right down to the captain and former captain. Last person we had was Rusty...My question is who in our team today do the islander boys have to look up to.
As an elder....
Yes, and he ripped into the selection of Steve Price as captain. He didn't mention about Price having his own car to collect him at the airport after an away trip, but that has to be a dumb move. Again I think it shows why EW went for SK.One part i liked was when he talks about the 2003 team how the islander boys had leaders like monty and jerry and ahardman like champion that the team would play hard for them and knew that if any thing happened on the feild the boys would come together as brother's.
My question is who in our team today do the islander boys have to look up to.
As an elder....